So many thoughts going through my head. Fears, regrets, failures… I don’t know what to do.
I’ve lost my appetite completely, and I’m losing weight again. This has never happened at home before. I don’t know what’s going on. I mean, I’m not upset… I’ve got some room to lose weight, now, and still be healthy. But still, I want to know why.
I’m exercising more than I have in a while. That’s always triggering. I go for bike rides and long walks, and all I can think about is how many calories I’m burning. It usually makes it easier to eat, but lately it just makes me want to eat less. I feel sick all the time. Technically, it’s probably hunger, but it feels like nausea. I don’t have the slightest desire to eat. At this point, I’m only eating what I am because I’m afraid my parents will catch on and make me eat more. I’m afraid they’ll keep me home from camp.
In two weeks, I’m supposed to begin training as a special needs counselor at a camp in Michigan. I’m nervous. I mean, if I’m losing weight now, what’s going to happen when I’m on my feet all day? And there will probably be a lot of trigger foods, which means eating will be even harder. I keep telling myself that I’ll be distracted, that I’ll be focused on helping the kids, and I won’t be thinking about myself so much. But I don’t know for sure.
I’m nervous about my scars, too. They were really just scratches more than anything… I thought they’d be healed by now. But the scars are still there, just as dark as ever. It wouldn’t be so bad if they were just regular cuts. Then I could say they’re just scratches, and it’s okay. But when I relapsed a month ago, I carved words into my skin. Lots of words. They’re kinda hard to miss. And it’s pretty impossible to say that was just an accident.
I’ll wear a one-piece swimsuit, and that will cover the worst ones. I’ll have my bracelets back on, so I won’t have to worry about my wrists. I could probably wear shorts when we go swimming, but the kids might ask about that, and what will I say? And what will I do about my arm? It’s got the word FAT carved into it pretty plainly. I can’t make my bracelets go back that far. I’m hoping no one will notice it. But kids… they notice everything.
I’ve got to let go of everything if I really want to start living, if I really want to help people. I’ve got to let go of the self-harm, the eating disorders, the depression, the self-contempt… everything. But I’ve been holding on to them all for so long. Whenever I start losing one, I grab ahold of another.
But… I’ve let go of the suicide. Yeah, I still want to die, and I’m still mad at God for keeping me here when I’ve caused so much pain. But I’ve made the decision that I’m not going to kill myself. That was so, so hard to let go of. It was a way out of everything. But I let it go. Yeah, the meds probably helped, but I still let it go. So maybe, if I can let that go, I can let everything else go, too?
I think bulimia will be the easiest to let go of, because that’s the one struggle I hate the most. Cutting will be harder, because it helps when I’m really mad at myself to take it out on my body. Anorexia will be the hardest of all, because that’s what I can always go back to. And it’s so sneaky, I can tell myself I’m just being healthy, eating less fat and exercising more. But losing weight is so addicting. And no matter how low I go, it’s never enough. I’ve got to find the balance between actual healthy living, and letting it go too far.
Behind everything is the depression and the self-contempt. If I can get rid of that, I can get rid of everything. If I stop hating myself for every mistake I make, every time I fall short, maybe I can learn to take care of myself. I don’t know. Letting go is going to be hard. Most days, I don’t even want to be better. I don’t want to be healed. I want to stay skinny and bleeding and comfortable. But… maybe I can do this. Maybe.
One thing at a time. I don’t have to stop losing weight yet. I just have to stop the cutting and purging, and work from there. Cutting… check. I haven’t cut in a week. Purging? Last time was five days ago. That’s progress. I mean, part of that is because I almost passed out so many times after I purged. And the cuts on my belly still hurt. But still, I used to hurt myself every day.
It will be okay. That’s what I keep telling myself. It’s gonna be okay, no matter what happens in the next couple weeks, no matter what happens at camp. I can do this.